What does it feel like when you need a surrogate?

Needing a surrogate to carry a child can bring up a wide range of emotions for the intended parents. Here are some common feelings that individuals or couples may experience when they need a surrogate:

• Disappointment: The realization that you are unable to conceive or carry a child on your own can be disappointing and may lead to feelings of sadness or grief.
• Loss: The need for a surrogate can symbolize a loss of the traditional pregnancy and childbirth experience, which can be difficult to come to terms with.
• Guilt: Some intended parents may experience feelings of guilt or self-blame for not being able to conceive or carry a child on their own. It is important to remember that infertility is a medical condition and not a personal failure.
• Uncertainty: The process of using a surrogate can bring about feelings of uncertainty about the future, the success of the pregnancy, and the relationship with the surrogate.
• Excitement: Despite the challenges, the prospect of becoming a parent through surrogacy can bring feelings of excitement and anticipation for the future.
• Hope: Using a surrogate offers hope for individuals or couples who have struggled with infertility or medical conditions that prevent them from carrying a child. It can provide a path to parenthood that may not have been possible otherwise.
• Relief: For some intended parents, the decision to use a surrogate can bring a sense of relief and a solution to a long-standing challenge of starting or growing a family.

It is important to acknowledge and validate these feelings and seek support from loved ones, mental health professionals, support groups, or organizations specializing in surrogacy to navigate the emotional journey of needing a surrogate. Remember that it is a courageous decision to pursue surrogacy and take steps toward fulfilling your dream of becoming a parent.