Pregnancy loss, how to cope?

Miscarriage, which is the most common type of pregnancy loss, occurs in up to 20% of known pregnancies. Stillbirth, which is the loss of a pregnancy after the 20th week, occurs in about 1 in 100 pregnancies. Ectopic pregnancy, which is when the fertilized egg implants somewhere outside of the uterus, occurs in about 1-2% of all pregnancies. It’s important to remember that each person’s experience with pregnancy loss is unique, it can be a traumatic and emotional event for individuals and families affected by it Seeking appropriate medical care and emotional support can help manage the physical and emotional aspects of this experience.

Intended parents who experience pregnancy loss through their surrogates may feel a range of complex and intense emotions, including grief, sadness, shock, anger, guilt, and disappointment. They may feel a sense of loss for not only the pregnancy but also the hopes and dreams they had for their future child. It is important to remember that each intended parent’s experience and response to pregnancy loss can differ. Some intended parents may feel a deep sense of grief for the lost pregnancy, while others may feel a sense of detachment, as they have not experienced the physical aspects of pregnancy. It’s essential to support each intended parent’s unique emotional needs and provide them with compassion and understanding as they navigate this challenging experience.

Coping with pregnancy loss can be a difficult and deeply emotional experience. Here are some ways to cope:

1. 1. Allow yourself to grieve: Acknowledge your feelings and permit yourself to grieve. It’s okay to feel sadness, anger, guilt, and other intense emotions.
   2. Talk to someone: Reach out to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist who can provide emotional support and listen to you without judgment.
   3. Take care of yourself: Practice self-care activities such as exercise, proper nutrition, getting enough sleep, and doing things you enjoy.
   4. Join a support group: Consider joining a support group for women who have experienced pregnancy loss. It can provide a safe and understanding space for you to connect with others who are going through a similar experience.
   5. Seek professional help: If you are struggling to cope with the loss, consider seeking professional help from a therapist who specializes in grief and loss.

How soon intended parents can continue the surrogacy journey after pregnancy loss depends on several factors, including the cause of the loss, the intended parents’ physical and emotional well-being, and their medical advice. Intended parents need to seek appropriate medical care and emotional support following a pregnancy loss and take the time they need to grieve and heal. Once they are physically and emotionally ready to pursue surrogacy again, they can resume the process. Depending on the circumstances surrounding the pregnancy loss, it may be necessary to wait a certain amount of time (around 6 months) before trying again. It’s essential to consult with medical professionals and fertility specialists to determine the best course of action for each situation.