Should I have communication with my surrogate or not?

This is one of the most frequently asked questions by Intended parents. It is generally recommended that intended parents maintain some level of communication with their surrogate during the surrogacy journey. Open and honest communication can help build trust, clarify expectations, and address any concerns that may arise. However, the level of communication may vary depending on the individual’s circumstances, preferences, and the specific surrogacy arrangement. It is important for all parties involved to establish clear communication guidelines at the beginning of the journey and to respect each other’s boundaries throughout the process. Furthermore, it is understandable to feel stressed or anxious when having contact with your surrogate during the surrogacy journey, as it is an intimate and emotional process.

If you are feeling stressed about having contact with your gestational carrier, it is important to communicate your concerns with her and with your surrogacy agency or lawyer. We may be able to provide you with support, guidance, and resources to help you manage your stress and feel more comfortable during the journey. You may also consider seeking professional counseling or therapy to help you cope with the emotional aspects of surrogacy. Remember that it is normal to have concerns and uncertainties during the surrogacy journey, and it is important to take care of yourself and your mental health throughout the process.

Below please check some strategies on how to cope with the stress that I have during contact with your surrogate.

1. 1. Practice relaxation techniques: Deep breathing, meditation, yoga, or other relaxation techniques can help you manage your stress and anxiety.
   2. Stay informed: Make sure to stay informed about the progress of the surrogacy journey and any changes that may arise. Knowing what to expect can help alleviate some of the stress and uncertainty.
   3. Communicate openly: If you are feeling stressed or anxious during communication with your surrogate, it is important to communicate your concerns honestly and openly. Your surrogate and your surrogacy agency or lawyer may be able to provide you with support and guidance.
   4. Seek professional support: Consider seeking professional counseling or therapy to help you cope with the emotional aspects of surrogacy. A mental health professional can help you develop coping strategies to manage your stress and anxiety.
   5. Take care of yourself: Make sure you are taking care of yourself physically and emotionally. Practice self-care activities, such as exercise, healthy eating, and hobbies that you enjoy.

Remember, surrogacy can be a complex and emotional process. It is important to take care of yourself, communicate openly, and seek support when you need It. Despite general recommendations, all journeys are different and it is normal for intended parents to choose to not have contact with their surrogate during the surrogacy journey. It is important to have clear communication with the surrogate and the surrogacy agency or lawyer regarding your preferences and expectations so that all parties can come to a mutual understanding and ensure a smooth surrogacy process.